|We were such babies!|
Here are a few helpful pointers I learned in our first year of marital bliss.
1. You will gain weight.
All that cuddling and cooking and cuddling and cooking is not countered by the amount of sex you're having. You can't really count it as exercise.
2. Your spouse will get tired of your favorite spices or foods.
You will try new recipes and some of them will suck, and the ones that are amazing you'll never be able to properly recreate.
3. It's a lot more boring than you imagined.
The lull after the honeymoon... The "What now?" as you look around your tiny, mismatched home. It's no longer a romantic comedy/wedding movie, you actually have to plan fun things to do or you'll just sit there watching TV and gaining weight. Go do some "exercise".
4. Some expectations will be shattered.
He doesn't like Christmas decorating. She's not as okay with the video games as you thought. She doesn't salt the pork roast enough. He doesn't put his dirty socks in the hamper, but rather next to it on the floor. Which brings me nicely to my next point...
5. You will fight about stupid things.
Our first big yelling fight was over packing tape. He spent too much and I wasn't specific enough when I sent him to the store. It was so crazy; like, yelling, blaming, namecalling, walking out.. Absurd. But from that fight we laid out ground rules for fighting that we still use today.
6. You don't have normal things.
You got used to your parents house where you had fancy things like a plunger and a ratchet set. It took them 20 years to build up their home supplies, and suddenly not having that is a frustrating reality check.
7. Its so much better.
You feel so free to love the person! I know it's sappy but its true. The love grows every day as you figure out how to talk to each other, how to please each other, and how to be the best spouse you can. Our mantra is "Divorce is NOT an option." No matter what. So we're stuck with each other, regardless of how crazy we may get.